A couple of weeks ago, during a conversation with like-minded people, I casually pointed out that gay sex was no different or more moral than bestiality. The discussion was about the portrayal of homosexual relationships as acceptable in children’s TV shows. My point was that what we were actually showing children were sexual perversions presented as normal behavior. This is no different than showing a boy having a romantic relationship with his dog, which everybody would find disgusting (as they should).
Keep in mind, these people 1) Agreed with me that homosexual sex was immoral, and 2) Agreed with me that it shouldn’t be portrayed in children’s media. Yet there reaction to my comments was outrage and the predictable “See, this is why they think we’re extremists!” canard.
This surprised me because I considered it self-evident. Of course it’s no different than bestiality; the logic used is exactly the same. The whole “But pets can’t consent!” always seemed to be a really lame argument to me. Pets don’t consent to most things we do to them. We own them. I force my pet to do things all the time, as do you, as does everyone.
Perhaps the problem is that nowadays we see a lot of homosexuals around, but very few people engaging in bestiality. But this is hardly an argument. For all I know, my whole neighborhood could be made up of animal fuckers. How would I know? And, for that matter, why would I care? You guys do you. I think it’s disgusting, but if you’re not shoving it in my face it’s not my life. As long as the animal comes out unharmed, there’s nothing I can do to stop you.
What if I see homosexuals kissing? Do I stop all contact with people who I otherwise had no issues with? No, not really, but I’m also not going to pretend it’s A-okay. If asked, I’ll answer honestly, or depending on the context dodge the question. But this is the same with people who commit bestiality. Hey, if you’re otherwise somebody who I was perfectly willing to deal with previously, I have no real reason to stop talking to you, I guess. Just don’t expect me to pretend everything’s cool. And if you’re really over the top about it – just like with homosexuality, by the way – I’m most likely going to avoid you.
I think it’s a matter of social conditioning – even those of us who think homosexual sex is “bad” simply can’t conceive of it as being “as bad” as bestiality. I think this is a mistake. I think, frankly, the comparison is pretty obvious. And I was genuinely surprised about that reaction from people who otherwise agreed with me.