Guest Post: Letter 49

This guest post is written by friend of the blog J.R.R. Tolkien. It is a general reaction to certain ideas bandied about concerning the nature of marriage. I think you guys will enjoy it – this Tolkien guy is an impressive writer. This was originally written to his friend C.S. Lewis:

[Y]ou observe that you are really committed (with the Christian Church as a whole) to the view that Christian marriage – monogamous, permanent, rigidly “faithful” – is in fact the truth about sexual behavior for all humanity: this is the only road of total health (including sex in its proper place) for all men and women. That it is dissonant with men’s present sex-psychology does not disprove this, as you see: “I think it is the instinct that has gone wrong,” you say. Indeed if this were not so, it would be an intolerable injustice to impose permanent monogamy even on Christians. If Christian marriage were in the last analysis “unnatural” (of the same type as say the prohibition of flesh-meat in certain monastic rules) it could only be imposed on a special “chastity-order” of the Church, not on the universal Church. No item of compulsory Christian morals is valid only for Christians…. I do not think you can possibly support your “policy,” by this argument, for by it you are giving away the very foundation of Christian marriage. The foundation is that this is the correct way of “running the human machine.” Your argument reduces it merely to a way of (perhaps?) getting an extra mileage out of a few selected machines.*

The horror of the Christians with whom you disagree (the great majority of all practicing Christians) at legal divorce is in the ultimate analysis precisely that: horror at seeing good machines ruined by misuse. I could that, if you ever get a chance of alterations, you would make the point clear. Toleration of divorce – if a Christian does tolerate it – is toleration of a human abuse, which it requires special local and temporary circumstances to justify (as does the toleration of usury) – if indeed either divorce or genuine usury should be tolerated at all, as a matter of expedient policy.

Under your limitations of space you have not, of course, had opportunity to elaborate your “policy” – toleration of abuse…. A Christian of your view is, as we have seen, committed to the belief that all people who practice “divorce” – certainly divorce as it is now legalized – are misusing the human machine (whatever philosophical defense they may put up), as certainly as men who get drunk (doubtless with a philosophic defense also). They are injuring themselves, other people, and society, by their behavior. And wrong behavior (if it is really wrong on universal principles) is progressive, always: it never stops at being “not very good,” “second best” – it either reforms, or goes on to third-rate, bad, abominable.

The last Christian marriage I attended was held under your system: the bridal pair were “married” twice. They married one another before the Church’s witness (a priest), using one set of formulas, and making a vow of lifelong fidelity (and the woman of obedience); they then married again before the State’s witness… using another set of formulas and making no vow of fidelity or obedience. I felt it was an abominable proceeding – and also ridiculous, since the first set of formulas and vows included the latter as the lesser. In fact it was only not ridiculous on the assumption that the State was in fact saying by implication: I do not recognize the existence of your church; you may have taken certain vows in your meeting place but they are just foolishness, private taboos, a burden you take on yourself: a limited and impermanent contract is all that is really necessary for citizens. In other words this “sharp division” is a piece of propaganda, a counter-homily delivered to young Christians fresh from the solemn words of the Christian minister.

…So what do you think? I’d tend to agree with Mr. Tolkien on this one – Mr. Lewis seems to me to have been far off the mark.

This entry was posted in Uncategorized. Bookmark the permalink.

4 Responses to Guest Post: Letter 49

  1. vishmehr24 says:

    I find CS Lewis reasonable. First, he assumes that
    “the majority of the British people are not Christian “.
    There is in fact a wide latitude between strict Catholic view that Tolkien talks of and modern anarchy, There is Moslem system-polygamy upto four views and free divorce for men, there is Hindu view–polygamy but No divorce, there is Protestant and Jewish view–monogamy but some divorce. All these systems have sustained civilizations for centuries. That “wrong behavior is progressive” is an observation limited to post-Christian cultures. There have many wrong behaviors that have not progressed i.e. Moslems have held onto their imperfect system very stably.
    However, in the British context I would agree that
    “the State was in fact saying by implication: I do not recognize the existence of your church”
    I write from India. Here we do not have a uniform civil code. Instead there are different civil (i.e. family) laws that apply to Hindus, Moslems, Christians etc. SO, if one marries under Christian civil law, the State enforces it. I think this is a viable option.
    A uniform civil code is not a necessity.

  2. I’d tend to agree with Mr. Tolkien on this one – Mr. Lewis seems to me to have been far off the mark.

    I’d have to see what Lewis said before declaring how “off the mark” he might have been. They might both be right and just arguing at cross purposes. Do you have the Lewis letter?

  3. I agree with Nate on (re)reading Lewis’ part. So, with that caveat, I’m really impressed with Tolkien’s reply and exposition.

    He is straightforward, which tells us something of their relationship, I think, and the fact that he respects Lewis and doesn’t feel any need to qualify his statements so as not to offend Lewis’ feelings. This is refreshing to me, since I find myself, as a rule, qualifying statements so as to avoid giving offense.

    It also aligns with something I’ve – what, noticed? theorized? – regarding the Truth, and free will, fallenness, all of it. He doesn’t come across this way to me, but I know Tolkien would come across as too strict or demanding for a lot of people I know. But he’s not wrong.

    In other words, it is worthwhile to bring people along in stages, just as I think God Himself does with all of us, in acclimating us to the Truth. Lewis, speaking to a popular audience, pulls the veil back a little; in a private correspondence, Tolkien pulls it back further.

    But unlike the Progressive agenda, this is for the disciple’s benefit. Too much light at once will kill a man. Let him become acclimated, step-by-step, and he will (step-by-step) grow in holiness and the experience of God’s glory.

    This may all be tangential at best. As for the content of Tolkien’s thoughts, I think he is spot-on.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s