According to Catholic theology (and as far as I’m aware the the theology of the majority of Protestant churches), a marriage is not valid unless both the wife and husband agree to the marriage. Otherwise, whatever anybody says, no marriage has taken place. Agreeing to the marriage carries the explicit (not even “implicit” for Christians, at least) promise from the wife that she submit to the husband, but the marriage has to be agreed upon first.
The wife, insofar as she is governed by the husband, can only be governed if she consents to be under the authority of the husband in advance. In other words: his authority is derived from the consent of the governed.