One of the few Honest Dating Articles I’ve Ever Read

…And not even from the manosphere, either.

There are some gem quotes in this one.

Q: Bad boys. What’s the allure?
Dan Indante:Women are lying when they say they want a nice guy. Their mothers might want them to meet Mr. Right, but they all want the bad boys. The nice guys are too accessible, and women really want what they can’t have. When a guy treats a woman poorly, it makes her think she can’t have him. It’s the thrill of the hunt, the forbidden fruit.

Here’s a particularly important section:

Q: Are there certain times women are more drawn to bad boys — say, when they’re young and not interested in a serious relationship?

Marcelle: My tastes definitely changed over time. Bad boys slept on futons, good guys slept in real beds. After a while, I started wanting to sleep in a real bed.

Translation: Now that I’m no longer as hot as I was before and I’m running out of time to have children I realize I need to settle for some poor sap who’s willing to pay for me.

Here’s where I don’t agree with (large parts of) the manosphere. Don’t “game” this girl. Forget about her. She’s not worth it.

Another important bit:

Q: How does a guy give himself away as good or bad on a first date?
Lisa: I can tell if he’ll be a good guy or a bad boy before we even go out. If he’s too shy when we make plans, he’s going to be a lame good-guy date. But if he takes charge and tells me what we’ll be doing, I know I may have found a bad boy.

Wow, guys should take charge! Whoda thunk it?

There are two morals to take from all of this. One is that if women have this sort of attitude to the very idea of dating nice guys, then leave. She’s not worth it.

The other is that”nice” and “not masculine” are not synonyms.

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5 Responses to One of the few Honest Dating Articles I’ve Ever Read

  1. Ilíon says:

    I’d add at least a third —

    If you (I am speaking to males) would violate what you know to be moral, just to “get some”, than you are as PWed as any “gamma”, no matter how “alpha” you imagine yourself.

    And women *always* tire-in-disgust of “men” who are PWed.

  2. Ilíon says:

    Here’s where I don’t agree with (large parts of) the manosphere. Don’t “game” this girl. Forget about her. She’s not worth it.

    Ah! But you’re thinking in terms of permanance and marriage.

    “Game” — despite the pretentions of some of the fools — is about:
    1) whining that feminism didn’t deliver the free, no-strings (and definately non-marriage) nookie as promised;
    2) trying to formalize an approach to using the moral and emotional weakness stereotypically common to women so as to get some more of that free, no-strings nookie.

  3. lotharson says:

    Happy Easter, cynical Malcom!

    This article looks like the usual crap one finds in folk evolutionary psychology.

    Needless to say one can really find the kind of girls wanting bad guys and changing their mind while realizing this does not bring them the emotional satisfaction they long for.

    As you rightly pointed out, these are the types of women a sensible and respectful man should never approach.

    Fortunately, there are many females who really love qualities such as kindness, softness, graciousness, compassion and so on.

    Now it is true that almost every woman would like to marry a hero.

    But many men (such as myself) dream about marrying a wonder-woman 🙂

    Otherwise, I just published an Easter tale you might be interested in:
    http://lotharlorraine.wordpress.com/2014/04/22/easter-tale-ostermarchen-conte-de-paque/

    Cheers.

    • Res says:

      Not really sure why people want females to love ‘kindness,’ altruism, service and so on. Yes, they’re inconsistent about it in terms of spoken values, but realistically attraction as a good exchanged for service isn’t much more appealing a model. Attraction is shallow and manipulable, because it is attraction, but at least it isn’t haggling over bargain prices.

  4. Shizzle says:

    “If he’s too shy when we make plans,
    he’s going to be a lame good-guy date. But if he takes
    charge and tells me what we’ll be doing, I know I may
    have found a bad boy.”
    This kind of girls are totally not worth it. They want to be treated nice but want people who’ll treat them awfully all because it satisfies their “bad-o-meter”.
    I wonder why they complain when their bad boy boyfriends get physical.

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